📝Writer EggU Counselor Mi-yan
Do you feel like you can't think about marriage and having children yet, or that you're not sure if that's really the path you want to take?
These feelings are actually very natural. Today, I would like to give you some hints to illuminate the path forward for those of you who are confused about the choices you should make in life.
Diversifying forms of happiness - The end of "the norm"
There was a time when "getting married and having children" was considered the pinnacle of a woman's happiness. However, we are now at a historic turning point. Marriage and childbirth are no longer the "default setting," but have become one of countless options.
It is a truly welcome change that various "forms of happiness" are becoming accepted in society - pursuing a career that you are passionate about, investing time in your hobbies and yourself, and choosing to cherish your relationship with your partner.
Modern barriers that make choices difficult
"Will my current income be enough to sustain my marriage?" "Can I really balance work and child-rearing?" "Can I find a nursery school?" "Will my partner share the housework and child-rearing responsibilities?"
Financial insecurity and environmental barriers are real concerns that many people have.
Another major factor is the diversification of values. Everyone has a different vision of what happiness means, with people saying things like, "You can have a fulfilling life without getting married," "I'm not concerned about being in a legal marriage relationship," and "I want to cherish my alone time more than anything." The growing understanding of diverse identities, including LGBTQ+, is also sparking the dismantling of the traditional "standard life course."
A lifestyle of "choosing intentionally"
What is required of us living in the modern age is not to just go with the flow, but to "intentionally choose our own lives."
For women in particular, there are biological time constraints when it comes to childbirth, so it is very important to be honest with yourself in order to make a choice you will not regret.
Steps to designing your own life
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Values Inventory : Write down what you most value in life, with a concrete timeline.
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Meeting diverse role models : Listening to the stories of people who have made different choices can help you see your own path.
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Dialogue with your body : Don't ignore the "I don't understand" part, but start with small steps. For example, even just recording your menstrual cycle will help you understand your body better.
To support your choice
EggU supports you in making decisions about your future. By understanding the indicators for the number of remaining eggs and your own body, you can plan your life based on more accurate information. Counseling by midwives and nurses will be available to answer any questions or concerns you may have.
Click here to learn about the various services available to suit your life stage .
Marriage and childbirth are wonderful choices in life, but they are not the only right answer. What's important is to make a choice that you can be satisfied with. EggU supports you on that journey.
📝Writer EggU Counselor Mi-yan
After obtaining a nursing qualification in Australia, she experienced marriage, pregnancy, infertility, pregnancy, and childbirth in her late 30s, and struggled with her career and life plans. Currently working as a nurse, she also works as an EggU counselor and career/life coach.
